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Freedom

You are not defined by your history, but by who you aspire to be.
Not by what you have done, but by the best of who you are.
Do not be trapped by your past.
Allow the promise of the future to guide your way.
Embrace your potential. It is all that matters.
~Brandy Herron

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Surrender?

Yesterday I was pondering a passage in one of my favorite books.  Dan Millman’s “Law of Spirit”.  There are many people in my life that are currently affected by uncertainty and are being driven down a new path, whether they like it or not. Perhaps you are experiencing this as well, so I would like to share this message with you.

This passage is from the chapter The Law of Surrender.

Some think it’s holding on

that makes one strong;

sometimes it’s letting go.

~Sylvia Robinson

“Have you ever noticed how flowing water is soft yet powerful?  Yielding, forceful, flexible, it surrenders to gravity without resistance, adapting to the shape of any container.  Water reveals the most intelligent and powerful response you can make in any circumstance….Surrender.”

“The Law of Surrender means accepting whatever happens in your life, it does not mean passive toleration for what you don’t like, or ignoring injustice, or allowing yourself to be victimized or controlled.  True surrender is active, positive, assertive–a creative commitment to make use of your situation, in a spirit of appreciation.”

“…this law guides you to surrender to the moment–to accept whatever arises, including your response to whatever arises.  It means accepting not only life’s ups and downs, but also accepting yourself–your body, your thoughts, and your feelings.”

“…life doesn’t always give us what we prefer, so our desires lead to attachment, anxiety, and frustration.  Following your small will may lead to temporary satisfaction, but not to lasting happiness.  When you see clearly that life is not only about getting what you want, but also about learning to want what you get, you’ll align your life with the Law of Surrender.”

These words inspire me to embrace every situation life brings to me as a learning experience.  How I emerge sets the tone for the next situation.  I have no regrets.  Everywhere I have been and everything I’ve done has brought me to where I am today.  Today prepares me for tomorrow.  Resistance to change will not stop it from happening, it only prevents you from clearly seeing the potential of where you are.

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Achieve Your Dreams

Recently, I wrote a guest article for the Ohana Mama blog. I had several requests to post it here on Tier1 Living, so here it is…

I remember something I read on the Ohana Mama blog about moving to Hawaii. Many people want to move to Hawaii, but think it is only a pipe dream. The response is “No it’s not…if you don’t want it to be.” The Ohana Mama, Sarah, had the courage to follow her dream and move to Hawaii.

Ask yourself, “What is my plan? What are my goals?” There are a lot of people who have lost sight of their dreams, or have talked themselves out of achieving their goals. I’ll share my wakeup call with you.
About three years ago, while pregnant with my second child, I had a startling revelation. I was so immersed in being a “Mommy” that I had lost sight of my goals. I’d forgotten what I wanted for my life.
Prior to having children, I had a demanding job as an account executive. I had carved out a career path and was determined to get where I wanted by the time I was 30. At age 27, when my first daughter was born, my path took a detour. I knew that for the immediate future, I wanted to be home with my child.
I took my ambition and redirected it into “mommyhood.” I thought I was doing a great job of enriching my daughter’s life. She was in art, music, and gymnastics classes. She had regular play dates and plenty of time to explore her world. I would find fun crafts, and hunted for cool events for our excursions.

After my epiphany, I envisioned life when my children were in school full time. The thought scared me. What would I do with myself while they were in school? I spent so much time creating the perfect childhood for my daughter that I forgot who I was.

What Goals?
Was I being a good role model? I always told my daughter that she could do, and be, anything she wanted. If I wasn’t working towards my own goals, was I setting a good example?
Okay, so I needed to get some goals … that would have to wait until tomorrow.

My second realization was that I didn’t have time to define my goals. Every time I sat down to create them, I felt antsy and thought of the things I needed to do for my other commitments. I was overscheduled and something needed to change. I was preschool room Mom, play date coordinator, elaborate birthday planner, social butterfly, enrichment director, community volunteer, and not to forget, homemaker.

Upon discussing this with my best friends, I realized that it wasn’t just me. We were all in the same boat. While we had a clear plan for what we wanted our children to experience, we had no plan for what we wanted to achieve for ourselves. The consensus was that we’d figure that out later.

Time for Change
My life went through a transformation. I reprioritized and streamlined my commitments. Then, I had time to reconnect with my dreams. Prior to that, my thoughts were so crowded I was unable to have clear vision for my purpose beyond being a mom. The experience of motherhood has shown me how precious life is, and the value of time; both pass quickly.

Since defining my goals, I began pursuing my passion. My joy comes from inspiring people to live the life they want. I hope to help others carve out time for themselves; focus on achieving their goals, and nurture meaningful relationships.

It is necessary to have direction. Without knowing where you want to go, you will end up walking in circles. Yes, it is important to ensure your kids have a high quality childhood. However, you also have a responsibility to yourself. You will have more to give, if you make your dreams one of your priorities.

A Focused Life is an Exceptional Life
Take time to create your goals and define your plan to achieve them. Once you know where you want to go, the path will unfold.

First, determine why you are waiting to take action. Often, it is self-doubt that is standing in your way. You must believe in your own success. Second, determine the steps for reaching your goals. It is okay if it takes time to achieve your dreams. As long as you are moving forward you will have a sense of accomplishment.

Next, identify and bypass the roadblocks. These come in many forms: time, relationships, self-doubt, and finances. Once you label your roadblocks, you can determine how to conquer them. Lastly, take action and don’t give up.

Achieving your goals is no different than moving to Hawaii; it just takes some planning. In the end, you will be basking in the sun too.

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